1 January 2022

A New Year message from Amanda

 Keep Smiling Through.....



Well here we are.  It's already 2022. Another year dead and gone, a New One not even 24 hrs old.....







If Amanda could, I know she would wish you all a very Happy New Year!  She's always been such a kind and sweet natured being.....







Unfortunately dementia has robbed her of all but a few words now.  She can say, Over here!  -  which means almost anything, depending on the context.






Or she will say, OK! Not too bad! to anyone we meet.....  

But that is now the extent of her vocabulary.....








Over Christmas we both had nasty colds - not Covid (I tested) - and we were laid a bit lower than usual, but they're nearly over.....  Just residual rattles in the chest and signs of old age.  But she keeps smiling.....








Though, at times, she does appear thoughtful....








There's generally no way of fathoming the depths of her imaginings.....







Except when she smiles, and you know she is cheerful.  A cup of tea often does that....







And it's not hard to make her chuckle, whatever is going on in my muddled mind......




And it's not just when she's warm and easy in her comfy nest; it's often the way when we are out in the wind and the rain as well.....








So let me take a risk and guess what she might say to you, to wish you a Happy New Year.....  Look after yourself, and keep smiling.  Wherever you are, and whatever your personal difficulties, remind yourself that it could well be worse.....







With love,

Richard




20 December 2021

A Christmas Card from Snettisham

 SEASONAL GREETINGS






This will be our first Christmas in Snettisham, our new home village, in Norfolk, and it's looking pretty. Despite all, it may be a better Christmas than last, though even without another lock down things are ever so slightly grim. 

Last year, on Christmas Day, after we had made remote contact with our daughters, Amanda insisted she wanted to go somewhere, but could not explain where or why. She was carrying something in a bag, and wanted to get into the car, so we set off, me desperately trying to find out what this was about.....

Eventually I twigged, and so, though I knew it was pointless, I took her to the Care Home where my mother had been in the last few years of her life. Of course, owing to lockdown, there was no way we could be admitted, but anyway my mum had died over a year before. Amanda tried the door, repeatedly, and then, sadly, gave up and we returned home.....




So, this year will be different, in several ways.  We are not quite so locked down, but we won't be going far, and we don't have family to stay, nor will there be guests to dine.  To most intents and purposes for Amanda it will be a day like any other.  Routines are important, and we will go out to walk, then rest, then eat, then rest then walk, then bath, eat, sleep - perhaps.




But that's OK.  We have good neighbours, and the Salvation Army over the road, and people  are friendly and will say, Happy Christmas, and Amanda will chuckle and we will go on our way. It could be far worse, and I know it is for many.  I think of those separated from their partners by Covid regulations, or by sickness.  I think of those with no resources - migrants sleeping rough at borders, and those sleeping rough on our streets.  I am not a faithful church goer, but the ever lasting story of a woman giving birth in the dirty straw of a stable should be a message that confirms a belief in a health service which is able to care for those in need.  When I hear of people dying in ambulances or in waiting for an ambulance, I think there is something careless  about government.....



Snettisham is full of light - there's a tradition of illuminating St Mary's and of brightening the market square:



On lighting up night there were fun rides for children:



And sweet stalls and the like: Thompson's:



And Maria's:




And there was music, and dancing and there were carols:




And yesterday, inside St Mary's, the local variation on a theme by St Francis took place, with animals from Park Farm in stalls for all to stroke:




Even down to a variation on the theme of camels:




And a tiny premature baby lay mewling in the manger, to remind all of the vulnerability of some....




While overhead ragged skeins of geese stream towards their roosts on the mudflats of the Wash, winking in the dark of a winter evening:




Though for feasting, some may prefer the humble chicken:




Or maybe just a pint round the fire in the pub, with a moment of comfort and company:




The village is bright. It is good to light the darkness:




Even individual houses down my street glow in the dark:




And all this brings cheer to an otherwise gloomy time of year, with the drizzle and the mud and the cold winds from the North Sea.  It is good to light the dark, and good to share kind thoughts. We are in a good place, and I send my very best wishes to all for peaceful, happy times.....




Oh, and as a footnote, on the subject of light, here's an ancient joke, rehearsed by Anne McElvoy, senior editor at The Economist, in The Observer, yesterday: How many psychotherapists does it take to change a lightbulb? The old answer is just one: but the lightbulb really has to want to change

However a new one is that Johnson's party may now decide that the great source of heat and light is fading to black.



There is hope!

Happy Days!






10 December 2021

A Norfolk Rhapsody

 A Year in Norfolk




It is exactly a year since we agreed to buy our new home in Norfolk, leaving Hertfordshire after eighteen years and some, and uprooting ourselves to the wilds of East Anglia, where locals say we are cut off on three sides by the sea and on the fourth by British Rail.





Regrets?  I will always have some, though I know they are futile.  Every day is a point of no return, and there are three choices:  live in the past, in the infinitely expanded present, or in dreams of the future.

Watch the oyster catcher.  He does what he does, and that is it.  Muddy beak, bloodshot eyes and scraggy pink feet.  He is what he is.




Or watch, and hear, the straggling skeins of Pink-footed geese as they fly out of gunshot to and from their roosts on the Wash and its mudflats.  I love their plaintiff honkings as they encourage each other, flying over my house, east in the morning and west in the evening, sometimes in gusty winds, and sometimes in thick dark cloud.  It is a winter treat that gladdens my heart when much else is glum.




That Norfolk National Treasure, Stephen Fry, said of his home county, You either get Norfolk, with its wild roughness and uncultivated oddities, or you don't. It's not all soft and lovely. It doesn't ask to be loved.  I think he is right.  I have made friends with one or two uncultivated oddities, and I have grown to admire its wild roughness.  





To the best of my remembrance I first came here with a couple of friends around fifty years ago, but since then have returned time and time again, highlights including being a residential volunteer for the RSPB at Titchwell Marsh and Snettisham on two occasions.  It was at Snettisham that I saw my first tangle of Knots, crowding the sky at dusk as the tide drives them off the Wash and to roost in the lagoons:





And it is here that you can now see breeding Avocet, which became the symbol of the RSPB in recognition of the success of conservation initiatives after its return, in 1947, after 100 years of exile from these islands:





Norfolk is the fifth largest county in England, and the driest.  It has more than 150 deserted villages, and 659 medieval churches, of which 125 have round towers.  Its coastline is 100 miles long, and its highest point is 338 feet above sea level.  I live at about 20 metres above sea level, but Ken Hill, between me and the Wash, reaches 60 metres.....  King's Lynn, at the mouth of the Great Ouse, was a Hanseatic Port, and at one time was the third busiest trading port in the country.




Apart from churches, the county has some exceptionally fine ruins, such as Castle Rising:




Castle Acre Priory, 




Walsingham (the most popular pilgrimage site after Canterbury), and Binham Priory, of which the church remains intact:




throughout the seasons.....




Practically every village has its Hall, like this in Old Hunstanton, where the Le Strange family settled after the Norman Conquest, with still extant rights over the shoreline for as far as you could throw a spear:




The Le Strange dynasty has now ceased in name, but they created the resort of Hunstanton, and their heirs still hold extensive rights over properties and lands around here.....




Amanda and I, or Amanda and her carers, walk every day, pacing her progressive demise over this landscape, and along her shores.  Her shadow lengthens every day.....




In sunshine, and in cloud (such as here, at Holkham, where Gwyneth Paltrow walked - there walk we):




Sometimes we stop to admire a plant, such as this Sea Holly:




Or we might see a bright cock Linnet watching us:




Another day we might chase dragonflies:




Or perhaps stroke a wild pig (on Wild Ken Hill):




By and large there are fewer people around, out of season.  Our village has its share of holiday lets which burst their seams in the school holidays.  At other times there is a steady flow of grey tourists - bird watchers and dog walkers - but in general there is space.  No longer do we have to shrink into hedges to avoid being mown down by lycra-stripped dog-runners or two grand carbon fibre bikers ignoring footpath signs.....




Off season the beach huts at Wells-next-the-sea are padlocked and sad.  The houses on Snettisham Beach are mostly shuttered up:




And the Royal West Norfolk Golf Club (founded 1892) lacks its summery infection of red-corduroy trousers:




The beaches are full of empty shells......  not wholly unlike us:




The wide skies fill with birds - geese everywhere and kites here and there:




At Thornham the old coal shed is locked.  Here fuel supplies were brought in by wherry to shield the treeless locals from winter winds:




At Snettisham the jetty, from which shingle was ferried to Lincolnshire to make concrete for the bomber squadron airfields, slips slowly into the sea:




And as the layer cake cliffs of Hunstanton crumble into the sea at high tide the sun sinks over the distant fens.....




Going, going......




And at low tide there is nothing but mud and the temptation of King John's Jewels under a fuzzy grey sky  patrolled by squawking geese:




Norfolk has become our home.  Sadly Amanda is unable to communicate her feelings about this, but she has adapted and seems to enjoy our wanderings.  The variety of scenery, light and weather is stimulating and our home is comfortable.  We could not wish for much more....  Enough is, for us at least, enough......




So, for the moment at least, we will follow the rules, irrespective of from whosoever's  moral authority they emanate.




And I recommend you do likewise......

Happy Times!


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And as a footnote, I found this.  I don't know David Callin (from the Isle  of Man), but would like to, and in the meantime hope he will not mind me reproducing this poem.  You can add your own pictures.....




Snettisham


by David Callin



This is the Wash it seems -

a last exhalation

of the dying land, or something

the sea's been working on

for ages: sketching it in,

rubbing it out,

redoing and redoing it,

never satisfied.



Look at you, all wrapped up,

hat and scarf and

gloves, and those wild eyes

made weak by medication

and hopes confounded so

so many times.

Never this thin before.

Going slowly, in this

flattest part of England,

going slowly downhill.



The birds rise

like a handful of rain

thrown upward,



and the Great Twitcher

in the sky misses

nothing. His fondness

for sparrows is well known.